This One's for the ladies in the house

Every now and then, my favorite advice columnist in the entire world (Cary Tennis on Salon), answers a question with such insight that I’m totally blown away.

Today, a young woman asked if she should go ahead and make a move on her co-worker, who she gets along great with, tons of chemistry, and all that. Problem is, he mentioned that he likes skinny chicks (which she’s not).

An excerpt of his response:

“You’re living in a world of men’s bodies. It’s our bodies and their responses to your body that fill you with doubt. So how do you get from a man’s mental picture of a 17-year-old cheerleader with thin hips and pointy tits kicking her leg high in the air after a touchdown to your screaming night as a bucking bronco under this cowboy at the next desk?

I don’t think it’s about waiting for him to superimpose his mental picture of the cheerleader over your face. You have to break through his billboard and wake him up. There is a place where men and women meet that is so deep there are no billboards anymore, there is just the desert sky and a scary howling that you’re not even sure is coming from you or him, it’s so animal.

Yes, many men get hard over skinny hips and big tits. Big deal.”

Posted by becky at December 4, 2003 1:36 PM